Where is the spoon?

“Do not try and bend the spoon, that’s impossible. Instead, only try to realise the truth, there is no spoon. Then you’ll see that it is not the spoon that bends; it is only yourself.” Spoon Boy to Neo, The Matrix.

The right way of living and thinking is just like that spoon - it doesn’t exist; there is no spoon. It only exists in our perception.

The right and wrong, they are just an imaginary perception we invented to measure against the decisions we made. Depend on how you look at it; one decision can be both right and wrong simultaneously. 

What’s more important, why do you need to measure how good or bad your approach was?

We live in a world where our decision’s quality mostly bases on external criteria rather internal ones, ranging from the “Thumbs Up/Likes” you get from social media channels to your family and friends’ affirmation. 

Unfortunately, by satisfying what the others dictate, we start to lose our true identity and uniqueness.

Humans are not computers. Not everything we do can be quantified in a binary fashion. Therefore, the need for using terms such as right or wrong to measure our decisions is fundamentally flawed.

There is no right or wrong, the only thing we have is our mind.

Therefore, what should you do instead?

(1) Develop the serenity to accept that there is no right or wrong way of living your life. 

(2) Dedicate yourself to the choices you make.

(3) Be too focused to worry about the outcome of it.